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Id Rather be Bad than Sad
Id Rather be Bad than Sad; Depression in Male Menopause Mens behavior is widely seen more
as aggressive and a womans as passive.Depression in woman is unfortunate but allowable; emotional actions and
problems are viewed as feminine. Depression is viewed as a weakness in a man.It is not an overstatement that men
are usually the last ones to see depression in themselves; sometimes they are amazed once they understand the
nature of their problem. Psychotherapist Terrence Real says, Hidden depression drives several of the problems we
think are typically male: physical illness, alcohol and drug abuse, domestic violence, failures in intimacy, self
sabotage of careers. It is said that millions of men are depressed and dont know it; millions who do know they are
depressed but are afraid and ashamed to show it.In our society, unfortunately, it is not manly to be depressed.
Perhaps you have had to work with, or even more unfortunately, for, a middle-aged man fitting this
description.Their creed states, I dont get headaches, I give them., and they spend every working hour trying their
best to live up to it.They speak to workers in either a dismissive and angry tone.They are coiled so tight you are
waiting for the buttons on their shirt to pop off.Their hands are either curled into hard fists, or they keep
working them in an almost compulsive way. They usually breathe hard through their nose.You might think that they
are thinking of themselves as the human equivalent of a bull about to charge, and some may indeed see themselves in
this way, but more often than not these men are desperately attempting to keep up this front at all costs. This man
speaks in an accusatory or dismissive tone, and where some of his fellow sufferers hate either sex equally, some
are almost abusively sexist. He is obviously an unhappy man, but he will cover up that unhappiness with drink,
drugs, excessive exercise, aggressive driving habits, overwork, and angry moods.They are so conditioned to deny
sadness or weakness, as feminine and so they act out his pain instead of internalizing it (again, like women do)
because they would rather be seen as bad than sad. There is a condition called The Irritable Man Syndrome that has
recently been coined to describe a set of symptoms caused by a drop in testosterone. The symptoms are similar to
those of male menopause, which involves the hormonal, physiological and chemical changes that occur in men between
the ages of forty to fifty-five. The IMS term was coined by a Scottish researcher who found that rams became
irritable, withdrawn, and irrational when their testosterone levels plummeted.A study was conducted with men, and
they reported feeling negative emotions (stressed, gloomy, grumpy, etc) when their testosterone level dropped,
along with experiencing fluctuations in brain chemistry. It is indeed difficult to feel empathy for such hostile,
toxic personalities. (If it helps to view them as an irritable, grumpy ram, that is understandable!) It is hoped
that in the near future some way will be found to aid them, and to prevent the kind of damage to little boys that
results in this sad syndrome.
Male Menopause And Infidelity
The Toll Male Menopause Takes on Family
Male menopause is a condition that is not always understood by those who suffer from it or those close to them. The symptoms cause the sufferer to feel isolated and the often felt depression makes it difficult seek help. Men find it difficult to seek medical attention for issues that are obvious, the nature of male menopause having physiological, emotional and mental elements to it means that those who suffer are less likely to seek the help they need.
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