Why Do People React Differently
When Dealing With Anger
Why Do Some React In Anger And Others Not? Two persons can witness the exact same event, one person reacts in
anger and the other remains calm, why?
We tend to process information differently because we have different background and experiences. Our
personalities are different too. Some have personalities that are very laid back and mellow. Others have
personalities that are quick to anger.
While others tend to keep things to themselves and are withdrawn, rarely exhibiting any signs of outward
emotion. When different people witness the same event, they will each react according to how they normally process
things and how their personalities dictate.
If you tend to react rashly and respond without thinking, you are more likely to be someone who could react
quickly in anger without first thinking about your response. If you are the type of person who is a thinker and a
planner, you may suppress your anger, long enough to think the situation through before reacting.
Other elements that determine how we react may be physiological or possibly related to genetics. Some persons
with certain diseases are overly sensitive and may react in a way because of this sensitivity. Some persons are
born with traits of being easily irritated, are quick to anger or very touchy about certain topics.
Researchers are not certain, but believe that there may be a connection to how we respond based on our genetic
makeup. We've all heard that Italians are hotheads and Germans are stubborn, this may be name-calling, but it
illustrates that there may be something to genetics and how we handle our emotions.
The theory of genetics and our ability to handle emotions; definitely something to explore further. Some feel
that it may be sociocultural in that as children we are often times taught to regard expressions of anger as being
in a negative light.
Did You Know This About Anger Management
How Do You Become More Aware Of Your Anger?
Part of Anger Management is learning how to be aware of your anger. When you are more aware of your anger, you can recognize situations, events or people that are common factors in your anger episodes. One way to become aware of the situations that you find yourself reacting in anger to, is to keep a log of the times when you find yourself expressing anger. Remember, not all anger is unnecessary anger; some anger is beneficial and can even save your life if you are being threatened. Anger can...
We're taught that it is OK to express happiness, sadness, fear, or other emotions; but not ok to express when
we are angry. As a result children may not learn how to handle feelings of anger. They do not learn how to redirect
it into positive and constructive ways that solve the problems or situations that cause them to feel anger.
One last reason could be our family backgrounds are different. Those who come from disruptive, chaotic,
emotionally unstable home lives may not learn how to appropriately express or manage emotions.
Others may come from home lives where adults were able to express and control their emotions
appropriately and were able to not only demonstrate by example, but teach children in the home how to handle their
emotions. Much in the same way that we are all individuals in how we look some tall, some short, some chunky, some
thin; we are also individuals in how we think, and act.
Forgiveness is a wonderful attitude to adopt. Without forgiveness, almost every person
would be fighting with someone else.
You may not be able to forgive someone all the time, and you may not be able to forgive repeat
offenders or those who lack remorse, but there are times when you may be able to forgive mistakes
and one-off incidents that may cause you to be angry at someone.
How we display emotions, how we process our emotions and how we manage our emotions is as
individual as our physical appear is one from the other. We may witness the same event or be mistreated by the same
business or person; but our reaction and how we manage our emotions concerning that situation can vary according to
our personality and our experience and ability in handling our emotions.