Tips To Help Identify And Monitor Your Anger

Tips To Help Identify And Monitor Your Anger. The first step in measuring if you are angry is to put a name on how you are feeling. One way is to keep a written document (a journal) of events or situations in which we became angry and record how we felt.

Some words that may describe how we felt may be: bitter, depressed, destructive, evil, frustrated, hostile, mean, numb, paranoid, rebellious, resentful, revengeful, worthless, victimized. Putting a name to our feelings helps the intensity of our feelings.

These are some names that can describe anger. Understand that when you feel this way, you are feeling anger. The next step is to write down in your journal exactly what made you feel this way. What was said, or done that made you feel like you do. Be as specific as possible in your description.

Make a list of whom you are angry at: This list may contain yourself, your spouse or partner, your boss, your children, the entire population of the earth, your stinking life, men, women, God, a particular ethnic race,...the list can go on and on.

Write down exactly whom you are angry at and be specific. When anger exists it usually involves one or more of the following possibilities: you are angry with others, others are angry with you, anger towards self, past anger You can have feeling other than anger when faced with a situation.

Are there any other feelings that you recall having during the situation? Suggestions may be: feelings of being cheated, you may feel dumb, helpless, guilty or inadequate. Now that you have identified these other emotions you can truly understand what you are angry about.

You can understand the intensity of your feelings and get a better grip on who or what makes you angry. Identifying that you feel helpless or guilty are elements that can be addressed by professionals or by self-analysis. Finding a why you feel helpless and finding a way to help you to feel powerful can take away the anger.   

 

Did You Know This About Anger Management What is Anger? Anger is a perfectly normal emotion to feel. Anger is expressed when we have been hurt physically or emotionally, have been wronged by someone or when we feel really frustrated. Anger is a normal human expression in response to an event or person. We all have been angry at some time or another. Like some of our other emotions: love, sadness, happiness, desire, pride and fear; we can experience them in different degrees, depending on the intensity of the experience that triggered the emotion. As...

Are you angrier now, then last time? If so, why? Is the situation similar? If the situation is different, how is it different? Does this help you to understand about your anger? Your journal is a useful tool for both identifying and monitoring your anger. Your journal can also gage whether or not you are gaining better control over your anger. If your intensity levels are going down when you assign numbers then you may be in fact gaining the ability to control your anger.

Not all anger is misplaced or unjustified.  Sometimes anger and frustration are caused by real and seemingly inescapable problems in our lives.  Anger and other feelings can be a completely natural response to such problems.

If you intensity numbers are rising then it is probably time to call in a professional or take anger management classes. Identifying what makes you anger can give you clues as to what to avoid or areas in which you may want to brainstorm ideas about how to handle these situations better in the future.

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