Teaching Teens To
Manage Their Anger

Managing Anger And The Teenager Like adults and kids, teens can experience anger too. Lets face it a teenager is going through some heavy-duty physical changes and the hormones that are bouncing around inside a teens body can create mood-swings, and emotional outbursts that can even surprise them when they happen.

Experiencing the emotion anger is a natural occurrence. What we chose to do to express our anger is our choice. The choices we make about how we express our anger is called Anger Management.

A teen has many tools available to them in which to manage their anger. Anger Management Tools are what a teen can use to channel or funnel their emotions so that they can express themselves without causing injury to themselves, others or property.

The challenge for the teen is knowing they have these tools and learning how to use them.

Tool 1: Self Control Most teens have been using this tool since they were a kid. They use this tool in conversation all the time. They know that if they tell their mom that the meatloaf tastes like dog food, she will likely not let him have desert, so instead he uses some self control and instead says, its ok mom, but Ill pass on the seconds because your cake sure smells great.

This isnt a lie; you are just controlling the urge to blast her with a better description to save her feeling and your desert! Now as a teen when you feel yourself becoming angry, like when your face gets to feeling all warm and you just know that your face is turning all shades of red and you find yourself clenching your fists you can fall back on self control to diffuse the situation.

You can step back and give yourself time to gain control over your words and actions. Words and actions that will be less likely to land you in hot water.   

 

Did You Know This About Anger Management One Technique For Anger Management Is Relaxation There are many techniques used to help manage anger. One of the techniques is called Relaxation. There are many ways to relax. The purpose is to help relax your body and mind at the same time. It may take a few tries before you can effectively use any of the techniques described here, but the results are worth the effort. One way to Relax involves your ability to control your breathing and then to further calm down with use of imagery. Breathing When one starts to feel anger...

If avoidance is not possible than knowing other things about you can be used to diffuse situations too. You may find out that you are pretty good at vocabulary and perhaps using words that a bully does not know can give you the time to walk away from a situation.

Tool 3: Controlling The Damage When faced with a situation you know will anger you, stopping to take an assessment of what can happen if you say or do a particular thing can help you to choose the option that will bring about the least amount of damage. Your first choice would be to avoid or walk away from a situation. Lets face it; some situations are unavoidable.

In this case, you want to walk out of the situation with as little damage as possible to yourself, to others and to any property that may be around. Taking stock of the situation and thinking of the solution that creates the most amount of benefit while causing the least amount of damage is called: damage control.

Tool 4: The teen has another tool at their disposal. That tool is the ability to talk things over with peers and the adults who care about them. Talking things out can open up new solutions or can give the teen allies who can support and comfort them. A teen never needs to feel that they are alone in managing their anger. Talking things over with others can even bring new tools to light.