So What Is Real Anger
So What Is Real Anger? Anger is a perfectly normal emotion to feel. Anger is expressed when we have been hurt
physically or emotionally, have been wronged by someone or when we feel really frustrated.
Anger is a normal human expression in response to an event or person. We all have been angry at some time or
another. Like some of our other emotions: love, sadness, happiness, desire, pride and fear; we can experience them
in different degrees, depending on the intensity of the experience that triggered the emotion.
As children our emotions can overwhelm us because we have not figured out what to do with them or how to manage
them. As we age from childhood to adulthood, we are expected to learn how to manage our emotions, including
anger.
Managing our anger is essential when living in societal groups because allowing anger to become out of control
can infringe on the rights of others. Uncontrolled anger can cause harm to others or to property. The harm we cause
others can cost us not only in monetary terms but also in emotional terms or even in loss of our freedoms. It is
wise for all of us to learn how to manage our emotions, especially anger.
Statistics: According to the Sunday Times, a British Newspaper, these are the statistics on anger for British
citizens: 45% of Americans lose their temper in the workplace on a regular basis 80% of American drivers have been
involved in an act of road rage (witness or actual participant) 1 in 5 adults has an anger management problem.
According to the 2002 WHO report, in the age group 15 to 44, violence triggered by anger causes about 14% of all
deaths among males and 7% of deaths among women. These statistics are alarming and are attributed directly to
individuals who have yet to be able to manage their anger.
Did You Know This About Anger Management
Management Strategies and Tips for Controlling Anger
We've all heard the old adage: Count to ten and let your anger cool. This works for small outburst of anger or when you feel it bubble up inside of you.
Walking away from confrontations or situations that you suspect may cause you to become angry
Avoid all together situations that have in the past caused you to become angry, if at all possible
Biting your tongue - I would not advise this one, it could be painful. The meaning behind the phrase, though is to think before you speak...
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Uncontrolled anger causes people to lash out and perpetrate acts of violence that causes pain and destruction to
others and to themselves. As the statistics mentioned, some of the consequences of anger has been road rage,
violence in the workplace and has even escalated to the point of angered individuals taking the lives of
others.
The emotion anger is not an entirely bad thing to experience. Sometimes we can reap benefits from
encounters with this emotion. An example would be when you find out that someone has been taking advantage of you.
The anger that rises in you can spur you on to take healthy actions that protect you from future abuse by this
person.
Anger is an emotional-physiological-cognitive internal state; it is separate from the behavior it
might prompt. In some instances, angry emotions are beneficial; if we are being taken advantage of, anger motivates
us to take action (not necessarily aggressive) to correct the situation.
| It is important to remember that you cannot totally eliminate anger from your life,
and this would not be a good thing to do even if you could. In spite of our best efforts,
even the gentlest and most passive person will occasionally experience things that cause them to
become angry. |
Aggression is action Anger in itself, is an emotional/physiological/cognitive internal condition
and is what we experience. Anger is not behavior; it is an emotion that we feel in response to a stimulus (event or
person). The emotion of anger may prompt someone to take action to correct a situation and that action can be
constructive or destructive
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