Options You Can Do With
Options You Can Do With Uncontrolled Anger. When you are not in control of your anger, you may express the rage
you feel by physically pounding objects or other people.
When the feelings of anger surface the person will express their anger, suppress their feelings, or remain calm
about the situation. Those who chose to express their angry feelings may do so with assertiveness, with aggression
or with controlled, calm words or actions.
Someone who is assertive is being respectful of themselves and others while getting the point across in a firm
manner. Someone who is being aggressive in expressing anger will not be respectful to others by being loud or
abusive in language or by exhibiting physical actions like pushing, hitting, kicking or punching of objects or
Persons who exhibit calm when they are angry may simply make a calm reply or take action like remove an object
from the table for instance without saying anything further. They make their point without confrontation or without
creating a scene. You can also first suppress your anger and then change and redirect the anger at an object or
This may be the case if someone has held their tongue or refrained from taking action and then reaches a point
where they are unable to suppress their anger anymore and the suppressed anger becomes redirected. Suppressing you
anger can be a part of managing your anger if you think about what you are angry about during the suppression
phrase and then redirect that anger into something positive and constructive; like a solution to a problem or to
correct a wrong.
The danger in suppression is when it does not become redirected and simply remains suppressed and unexpressed.
Suppressed anger can turn inward upon the person feeling it, where it can be destructive to that person's psyche or
emotions. Inward contained anger can also express itself unconscientiously in extreme emotional tenseness, high
blood pressure or depression.
Did You Know This About Anger Management
Management Strategies and Tips for Controlling Anger
We've all heard the old adage: Count to ten and let your anger cool. This works for small outburst of anger or when you feel it bubble up inside of you.
Walking away from confrontations or situations that you suspect may cause you to become angry
Avoid all together situations that have in the past caused you to become angry, if at all possible
Biting your tongue - I would not advise this one, it could be painful. The meaning behind the phrase, though is to think before you speak...
Unexpressed anger can lead to other problems such as pathological etiologies such as pathological expressions of
anger - passive-aggressive behavior (getting back at others and not telling them why) or having a personality that
is cynical and hostile (constantly putting others down, criticizing constantly, always cynical).
These people will have difficulty sustaining healthy relationships. Another way of handling anger
after suppressing it, is to remain calm and in control of your internal responses to the situation or person.
You can take steps to control your heart rate, and your anger by meditating, doing yoga etc. Most
people feel better when they can redirect their feelings of anger into constructive solutions for the
Timing for Important Discussions:
Often, fights and arguments are more likely to start at particular times of the day, such as when
you get home from work or at bed-time.
Often at these times, people are more irritable, stressed, and tired, so it is only natural that
they are more likely to fight and argue, and therefore become angry, at these times.
Taking positive steps to rectify or correct a wrong can make you feel better about what happened.
Anger can be handled in many ways, knowing what is a healthy response to being angry is important for all of
Learning how to respond in positive, helpful ways can allow you to express your feelings of anger
without causing harm to yourself, to others or to personal property.