Different Definitions Of What Anger Is

Different Definitions Of What Anger Is. Knowing what anger is, helps us to be able to deal with it. Here are just a few definitions of anger that may help you manage anger. What does it mean when someone says "You have an anger problem."

Someone who has an anger problem is someone who exhibits anger related behavior that is disruptive, destructive or hurtful to themselves or others. Those who have anger problems are often alienated from those who love them because the behavior frightens them.

The consequences of the anger problem are felt at work and at home. Anger is an emotion. Feeling anger can be a normal and a good thing when it involves having an appropriate response to a threat or physical or emotional danger. Feeling angry can prepare us to act in time to get out of a dangerous situation.

Anger can be a self-defense mechanism. Anger becomes unhealthy when we have inappropriate anger behaviors to situations that do not pose a threat to the one exhibiting the behavior. Anger becomes a problem when one overreacts to a situation with more force or emotion than the situation normally warrants.

Signs that an anger problem exists:

1. The angry person physically or emotionally abuses another person
2. The victim accepts physical or emotional abuse as being the norm from the angry person.
3. The angry person attempts to control other persons or situations.
4. The victim feels controlled or abused by the angry person.
5. Feeling attacked, shamed or unfairly put down or criticized about something you have done or said.
6. Feeling the need to attack or shame others
7. Exhibiting rage that is out of control
8. Not being able to communicate with other about your feelings

The key to overcoming any anger problem is learning how to respond to a situation or person instead of reacting. No one has the power to make you feel angry. Anger is a feeling that you can control. You can control your response to any situation or person. You are in control of your emotions, including your anger.

Some more definitions about anger management:

Abuse: any act that hurts someone physically, emotionally or mentally that is done by someone to another person.

Anger: the feeling one experiences when hurt physically or emotionally

Control: the act of dominating another person that makes that person feel unsafe, uncomfortable or vulnerable

Guilt: experiencing the feeling that you have done something wrong or that you are responsible for something bad that happened.

Intimacy: feeling comfortable and safe to be in close contact with another person

Power: knowing that you have the ability and strength physically, mentally or emotionally to affect change

Rage: the uncontrolled explosion of behavior or words that erupts in response to feeling angry

Respect: the opposite of feeling shame towards others or ourselves. Feeling a sense of honor for others or us.  

 

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Shame: feels very much like guilt and is a perceived message that something is wrong with the person who feels it. Trust - being able to put your faith in a person's ability to do no harm to you

Victim: a label given to a person who perceives him or herself as being without power. The label given to people who have been abused. A label that steals power away that is necessary to make a change for the better.

Even when anger is justified, it can quickly become irrational and give rise to other irrational thoughts and perceptions.  As a result of this, one of the best defenses against anger is logic.  When you become angry, it is a good idea to remind yourself that the world is "not out to get you", and that you are simply having a bad experience that is simply a normal part of life.

Violence: any physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, abuse that is forced upon another person

Vulnerability: the feeling of being exposed and weak It is important to understand what we mean by the terms bantered about when discussing anger issues. Communication is easier if we all speak the same language in regards to what words mean.

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