Different Definitions Of What Anger Is
Different Definitions Of What Anger Is. Knowing what anger is, helps us to be able to deal with it. Here are
just a few definitions of anger that may help you manage anger. What does it mean when someone says "You have an
Someone who has an anger problem is someone who exhibits anger related behavior that is disruptive, destructive
or hurtful to themselves or others. Those who have anger problems are often alienated from those who love them
because the behavior frightens them.
The consequences of the anger problem are felt at work and at home. Anger is an emotion. Feeling anger can be a
normal and a good thing when it involves having an appropriate response to a threat or physical or emotional
danger. Feeling angry can prepare us to act in time to get out of a dangerous situation.
Anger can be a self-defense mechanism. Anger becomes unhealthy when we have inappropriate anger behaviors to
situations that do not pose a threat to the one exhibiting the behavior. Anger becomes a problem when one
overreacts to a situation with more force or emotion than the situation normally warrants.
Signs that an anger problem exists:
1. The angry person physically or emotionally abuses another person
2. The victim accepts physical or emotional abuse as being the norm from the angry person.
3. The angry person attempts to control other persons or situations.
4. The victim feels controlled or abused by the angry person.
5. Feeling attacked, shamed or unfairly put down or criticized about something you have done or
6. Feeling the need to attack or shame others
7. Exhibiting rage that is out of control
8. Not being able to communicate with other about your feelings
The key to overcoming any anger problem is learning how to respond to a situation or person instead of reacting.
No one has the power to make you feel angry. Anger is a feeling that you can control. You can control your response
to any situation or person. You are in control of your emotions, including your anger.
Some more definitions about anger management:
Abuse: any act that hurts someone physically, emotionally or mentally that is done by someone
to another person.
Anger: the feeling one experiences when hurt physically or emotionally
Control: the act of dominating another person that makes that person feel unsafe, uncomfortable
Guilt: experiencing the feeling that you have done something wrong or that you are responsible
for something bad that happened.
Intimacy: feeling comfortable and safe to be in close contact with another person
Power: knowing that you have the ability and strength physically, mentally or emotionally to
Rage: the uncontrolled explosion of behavior or words that erupts in response to feeling
Respect: the opposite of feeling shame towards others or ourselves. Feeling a sense of honor
for others or us.
Did You Know This About Anger Management
Management Strategies and Tips for Controlling Anger
We've all heard the old adage: Count to ten and let your anger cool. This works for small outburst of anger or when you feel it bubble up inside of you.
Walking away from confrontations or situations that you suspect may cause you to become angry
Avoid all together situations that have in the past caused you to become angry, if at all possible
Biting your tongue - I would not advise this one, it could be painful. The meaning behind the phrase, though is to think before you speak...
Shame: feels very much like guilt and is a perceived message that something is
wrong with the person who feels it. Trust - being able to put your faith in a person's ability to do no harm to
Victim: a label given to a person who perceives him or herself as being without
power. The label given to people who have been abused. A label that steals power away that is necessary to make a
change for the better.
Even when anger is justified, it can quickly become irrational and give rise to other irrational
thoughts and perceptions. As a result of this, one of the best defenses against anger is
When you become angry, it is a good idea to remind yourself that the world is "not out to get
you", and that you are simply having a bad experience that is simply a normal part of life.
Violence: any physical, emotional, verbal, sexual, abuse that is forced upon
Vulnerability: the feeling of being exposed and weak It is important to understand
what we mean by the terms bantered about when discussing anger issues. Communication is easier if we all speak the
same language in regards to what words mean.