Dealing With Anger From Your Child
Dealing With Anger From Your Child. Kids express the emotion anger too. Ever hear the term "terrible two's". The
term comes from the inability of two year olds to control their actions when expressing emotions.
Ever see or hear an angry two years old. They have awesome lungpower. Age two is not too young to start teaching
them how to handle those emotions and give them alternative behavior patterns.
When adults fail to teach young children how to manage their emotions, they grow up to be teen and adults in
trouble. Follow these tips for teaching your child about anger management and your little one will resemble your
sweet angel once again.
If you have ever witnessed a young parent try unsuccessfully to get a screaming toddler to stop yelling in the
cereal aisle you know that not only do kids have anger issues but parents are often unsure how to teach them to
manage their anger.
What makes a child angry is not always clear. Sometimes the cause of their tantrums are masked and you have to
uncover the real source.
1: The parent should try to remain calm during an anger episode (not easy). If the parent also
loses their cool, then the situation can rapidly escalate into total bedlam.
2: Remain firm regarding the issue at hand (child wants candy and is screaming) do not
give in and give the candy just to make the child be quiet. This will teach the child to scream if he wants
something and the object of their desire will reward him.
3:Try to distract the child or give him a quiet timeout that is as free from entertainment as
4: Encourage your child to talk about what they are angry about. Ask your child how they would
want to solve the problem. Maybe a compromise like candy after supper (teaches them there is a proper time for
5: Evaluate any possible reasons for the anger that may not be obvious. Look for recent changes
in the child's routine or household members.
6: Once the true cause has been determined then you can evaluate how to best handle the
situation. The parent must always be in control of the situation and keep the child safe during any
7: Older kids and teen also need to learn how to handle anger issues, especially at school.
Here the role of the parent becomes a mentor, and listener. Leading the older child to understand what triggered
the anger episode. How to better handle the situation and what the consequences of their behavior will be.
The important thing for parents to remember is not to judge, or load on the guilt. Most kids are aware of what
happened, they might be scared, or feel guilty or embarrassed by what took place. Allow them to explore their
options and to freely discuss what happened and how they feel about it. .
Did You Know This About Anger Management
One Technique For Anger Management Is Relaxation
There are many techniques used to help manage anger. One of the techniques is called Relaxation. There are many ways to relax. The purpose is to help relax your body and mind at the same time. It may take a few tries before you can effectively use any of the techniques described here, but the results are worth the effort.
One way to Relax involves your ability to control your breathing and then to further calm down with use of imagery.
When one starts to feel anger...
8: Older kids and teens need firm boundaries. They need to know what behaviors will not be
tolerated (profanity, destruction of property, physical violence toward self or others) Involve your older child or
teen in devising a list of appropriate and inappropriate behaviors. Encourage them to keep an anger journal to
record any events, what happened, who was involved, what they felt like during the event, how they think others
felt like who were involved, or witnessed the anger event. Have them record the consequences of their actions
Record what they would do differently next time the same scenario takes place (how they can avoid
losing their cool). Encourage rewards for appropriate responses to their anger triggers. Rewards should involve
their favorite pastimes like extra TV time, computer time, telephone time or reduction in household chores. Parents
should be good role models.
It is important to remember that you cannot totally eliminate anger from your life, and this
would not be a good thing to do even if you could. In spite of our best efforts, even the
gentlest and most passive person will occasionally experience things that cause them to become
Kids who observe how parents handle anger in appropriate ways will be encouraged to learn how to
manage their anger better. There are a lot of resources for older kids, teens and their parents. Some resources
are: school teachers, school guidance counselors, professional therapist, group therapy, books, Websites, anger