Anger Management Techniques
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Self-Help Anger Management Techniques There are many reasons for a person to feel anger and just as many ways to
get help if you suffer from periods of uncontrollable anger, or lose your temper, and many people are able to
resolve this problem through self-help anger management techniques.
However, before you can control your feelings of anger, you have to understand what causes it. Some of the more
common causes of anger are frustration, hurt, becoming annoyed, harassment or feelings of disappointment or of
being threatened. When these feeling occur adrenaline is released into the bloodstream which is made worse because
the heart pumps faster and your blood flow is faster.
Your blood pressure will increase and your muscles may feel tense. Basically, your body is gearing up for action
and understanding how to express your anger in a non-threatening manner can actually allow you to use this extra
energy in an appropriate way.
You have to remember that ignoring anger will not make it go away. If you do not effectively deal with your
anger, it can lead to tension and health problems, accidents and personal problems with loved ones and even
job-related problems. If left unchecked it can lead to crime, abuse and even violent behavior.
You need to recognize that you are anger, determine what caused the immediate anger and decide what steps need
to be taken to eliminate the cause. You should never discuss the problem when you are angry, especially with the
person with whom you are angry.
Calm down before discussing the problem and do not shout. That usually only makes the problem worse and
increases your anger. Understand why you are angry. Are you just trying to beat the other person in a competitive
sense, or does a real problem exist that needs ironed out?
You should never get person when discussing a situation that caused the anger. Put your energy into solving the
problem that caused the anger, not the person.
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Management Strategies and Tips for Controlling Anger
We've all heard the old adage: Count to ten and let your anger cool. This works for small outburst of anger or when you feel it bubble up inside of you.
Walking away from confrontations or situations that you suspect may cause you to become angry
Avoid all together situations that have in the past caused you to become angry, if at all possible
Biting your tongue - I would not advise this one, it could be painful. The meaning behind the phrase, though is to think before you speak...
Getting personal in an argument will only make things worse. You should listen to what the other person has to say
before jumping to conclusions and do not resort to name calling and insults, which will only extend the anger and
you will probably regret saying later. It is OK to be assertive and to express your side without yelling and
You also should not pout. No one likes an adult acting like a child when they are angry. Do not
waste your time and energy on a situation that is unavoidable. Use humor. Find something funny within the situation
to help defuse a potentially explosive situation. Physical activity can help dissipate some of that adrenaline
flowing through your blood.
It is important to remember that you cannot totally eliminate anger from your life, and this
would not be a good thing to do even if you could.
In spite of our best efforts, even the gentlest and most passive person will occasionally
experience things that cause them to become angry.
Walk, run or perform some other physical action that can take your mind off your anger. Make sure
you get adequate rest as when people are tired, little things tend to annoy them, which is one of the causes of
anger. Remember, even taking a time-out to calm down before an angry confrontation makes a bad situation worsen. Do
not approach the problem until you have had time to think through both sides of the situation.