How Does Modern Society View
In our modern society, anger is often viewed as an immature or uncivilized response
to violation, frustration, threat, or a loss.
On the other hand, keeping calm, and coolheaded, or just turning the other
cheek, is considered to be more socially acceptable.
Uncontrolled anger can lead to inappropriate expressions of anger,
such as uncontrolled and violent outbursts, or misdirecting their anger at the wrong thing, or at
the other extreme would be, repressing their feelings of anger (or even lacking them altogether) when those
types of feelings would be the appropriate response to a situation.
Also, anger that has been “bottled up” for a length of time, can lead
to constant violent thoughts, or even nightmares. Sometimes it can lead to physical symptoms like,
ulcers, headaches, or hypertension..
Common Symptoms Of Anger:
Anger can be usually be classified as one of two main types: aggressive anger, and passive anger. These two
types of anger have some characteristic symptoms:
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Passive Forms Of Anger:
Passive anger can be explained in the following ways:
- Secretive behavior, such as stockpiling
resentments which are expressed behind people’s backs or through the use of sly digs, giving people the
silent treatment or using under the breath mutterings, avoiding direct eye contact, resorting to putting people
down, gossip, making anonymous complaints, writing hurtful letters, stealing, and conning
- Obsessional behavior, like needing to be clean and
tidy, making a habit of constantly checking things, over dieting or overeating, demanding perfection with all
- Manipulation, such as provoking people to anger, and
then patronizing forgiveness, provoking aggression between others, using emotional blackmail, in genuine
tearfulness, faking an illness, sabotaging relationships, using sexual provocation, getting
a third party to convey negative feelings, the withholding of money or resources.
- Self-blame, If a person is apologizing too often, being
overly critical of themselves, doing things that are just asking for criticism, you should be
- Evasiveness, Things such as turning your back on someone
in a crisis, always avoiding conflict, not arguing back, when the situation calls for it, becoming phobic.
Self-sacrifice, such as being to
helpful, always making do with second best, quietly making suffering signs but always refusing help,
or lapping up gratefulness and making friendly digs where it is not forthcoming.
- Ineffectual, If a person
is setting themselves or others up for failure, always choosing unreliable people and then
depending on them, always seeming to be accident prone, under achieving, sexual impotence, expressing their
frustration at minor things but ignoring the more serious ones.
- Dispassionate, Things like: giving people the
cold shoulder or phony smiles, trying to look cool, sitting by while others figure things out,
dampening feelings with any type of substance abuse (this includes overeating), oversleeping, not responding to
other’s anger, frigidity, indulging in sexual practices that depress spontaneity and just using their partner,
giving large amounts of time to machines, objects or intellectual pursuits, talking about
their frustrations but not showing any feeling about them.
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How Does Modern Society View Anger
|If you find yourself acting in ways that seem out of control and frightening, or are
far out of proportion with the event or person that triggered them, then you should seek help to
find better, more acceptable ways to deal with and control your anger.